When we consider our physical health, many people feel they are either sick or not sick. But in reality we can be sick, not sick or healthy. The same can be said about our life adventure. Are you just coasting along waiting to see if “life” is going to drop something in your lap? If you see an opportunity is your first thought “it’s too risky” or “it takes too much work”? Do you just continue to just survive, kind of like being “not sick”?
But isn’t life our big adventure? It’s about developing our spirituality; taking risks; expanding our experiences; becoming more. It’s easy to see how people fall into survival mode. It’s safe. As we’re growing up, we’ve all encountered situations when we tried something new or were just enjoying ourselves and someone laughed at us or ridiculed us. For many people, this feeling of humiliation piles up over the years and they find themselves just surviving by playing it safe; retreating into their shell. If we begin choosing only “safe” situations so that we look good in other people’s eyes, we miss out on many opportunities that are right in front of us; opportunities that could change our lives.
How many times have you been faced with a “crisis” – not a life and death type of crisis, but rather one of those everyday-type of crises. For example, you’ve got a meeting with a new business partner and it’s vital that you be on time and make a good impression. You’re a little nervous because this could grow your business exponentially. You jump in the car and take off, trying to do a little mental preparing. You arrive right on time and as you start to get out of the car, you look down – you still have on your sweat pants and slippers! What are you going to do? You can just imagine what this new person is going to think of you – my goodness you can’t even dress appropriately. They’ll probably laugh at you and then start backing away from the business. Your busy little mind can create all kinds of scenarios – all disastrous. Now you’re really in a frenzy.
You could get back in the car and call them and tell them your car broke down or. . .
Go in and after saying ‘hello’ etc., say “you know the greatest thing about my business is that I get to work at home and I often dress accordingly. Well, I’m a little chagrined because I guess I was so involved in thinking about our plans to work together, I neglected to check my attire and here I am slippers and all!”
What do you think would happen? Probably you would both have a little laugh and very possibly your new business partner would tell you a story about an embarrassing moment of his own. We make up reality when we’re faced with a ‘crisis’. We need to quit worrying about what others think of us and rather start examining what we think of ourselves.
Thriving takes risk. The following are things to overcome in order step out of your comfort zone:
Fear of failure – instead consider the Joy of Success
Fear of being wrong – instead consider not ever knowing if you might be right
Fear of rejection – instead consider the opportunity to create a new relationship with someone (business or personal)
Fear of embarrassment – instead consider being confident enough to laugh at your own mistakes and move on
If we’re going to live this adventure to the fullest, we must do our best. That means stepping outside our comfort zone to face irrational fears. It means taking responsibility for our choices. It means there are no failures, only learning experiences. It means getting over ourselves so that we can SOAR (Spirituality, Optimism, Abundance, Responsibility).
Are you thriving or just surviving? When will you take that first step?
As an entrepreneur for 30+ years, it is K. Davison’s passion to help others experience growth on both the personal and professional levels. Read her blog at http://wealthpossibilities.wordpress.com